Lovey-dovey ;)

So it's my 121th day as a blogger and I just checked I've had 1,146 visits to my blog so far. WOW, I think that's amazing considering I'm writing anonymously and to top it off I have readers from the United States, France, India, Germany, Denmark, Ukraine and etc. (now we all know that when we're writing an essay etc is a cliche way to cover up the fact that you have no ideas left, but no I'm serious here, etc here means other wonderful countries) Thank you so much readers! :)

This 9th post of mine is a post about love. Yes people, LOVE ;) If you're a close friend of mine, you'll probably know that I have not gotten my self into all that couple, relationship and boyfriend kind of thing. So yes, I've never had a so-called-boyfriend. At this point you'll probably doubt my relevance and credibility to even write on love but hey, love is more than that! And besides I know what I'm talking about okay, I may not have been in a relationship but I've had many experience on love. Just to name a few, the person I had a crush on had a crush on me, the person I had a crush on liked my enemy, my best friend had a crush on a boy that had a crush on me and other crazy situations ;) plus mom has shown me what love truly is.

I read this tweet on twitter (I bet some of you have too) that the difference between the word 'boy friend' and 'boyfriend' is the gap between the word boy and friend. And that gap is the ever so famous 'friend zone'. Well I think that's crap. If that 'friend zone' didn't exist between a girl and a boy then it would be husband not 'boyfriend'. Yes, it's pretty obvious I'm not a fan of this whole boyfriend thing. Like what's the point anyway? If you two love birds like each other than go marry already. Who created this transition process before marriage? If one of you quivers at the idea of marriage then hey, maybe that's a sign that he or she is not the one!

Some of you might disagree with me and think that being in a relationship means that you do love each other and aren't married yet because it's not the right time and by being 'boyfriend and girlfriend' is a way to make sure you'll be together. Well hey, you know what? Have some faith! If you guys are meant to be then nothing can stop that from happening. It's more exciting that way-allowing life to happen naturally and living completely oblivious to what the future holds :)

I find it really hard to feel sad for someone who gets a broken heart after getting dumped. Like, I honestly think you should have expected that. Because this whole 'couple' thing is one very famous childish game. And like all games, someone is bound to lose. Because if all that 'I love you with all my heart'  is true then why not just get married aye? It's normal to admire someone maybe it's because of that great personality or maybe it's just because of that flawless face but hey, there's a huge difference between ADMIRE and LOVE. I have crushes on people all the time and what makes me go through that stage faster than other people is that I constantly remind myself the fact that one day I'll loose interest in that person and will admire someone else.(It may sound kind of harsh but it's the bloody truth that I know you cannot deny or object to)

Love means to commit. Marriage is a means to show that you are willing to have and go through such commitment with a total stranger, I'm okay with failing, for failure is an integral part of success but marriage is the one thing in life I refuse to fail in. How do you even recover from ultimate commitment and after giving your all and your heart to a person? I take this marriage thing seriously people. Well everyone should actually because when you marry someone you have to accept them for who they are. Their good and their bad. When you marry someone, you're stuck with the whole package for life. Nobody is perfect, everyone knows that, but to marry someone means to be able to be happy every day even though you have to live the rest of your life with that imperfect someone. 

I honestly think a lot of people have this wrong picture and understanding of what marriage truly is. Just because you like someone and that person likes you back doesn't mean you're capable of spending the rest of your life, HAPPY with that person. Marriage is not rainbows all the way. There will be some rain or maybe a hurricane, who knows? Look around, I don't even need to prove my point. It's normal for little girls to fantasize that marriage is all rainbows. But it's the young ladies that expect so much and dream such sweet and perfect dreams that will get crushed and frustrated when they will inevitably learn someday that love is more than that. Love takes sacrifices and love is painful to have sometimes.

So dear readers,  stop with this belief stop with this lie that when a girl likes a boy it means happily ever after. You will have to face some conflicts and dilemma. Tell me people, what is a good story if it weren't for all the conflicts and drama. What is life without all that drama? Life would not be life if you have not had to go through the ups and downs.

I hope my message comes across and I love you dear readers ;)

p/s: This is what I think, if you think otherwise then that's okay. It's okay to have contradicting opinions on something.