To love somebody..

Far from being a pro in this area but nevertheless I've stumbled upon some articles and I've watched some TEDx Talks taking an interesting and refreshing approach on how one can look at a relationship.

I have come to realise that in order for a relationship to succeed, equally substantial or maybe more substantial than the constant emphasis on how you treat the other person is….. how you treat yourself. Yes, in a two-way relationship, the way you treat yourself is also a determining factor of the success of the relationship. I learnt that to love someone (successfully) you must first:

1. Love Yourself

   This is tremendously important. They say, before you marry someone you must first marry yourself. It’s true, you will never allow someone to love you right if you yourself, do not love you. Loving yourself is the ability to accept yourself for who you are, to love those imperfections that make you, ‘you’, and to be able to be your biggest supporter. You see when you’ve accepted yourself and you feel comfortable in your own skin, you’ll have this sense of self-confidence and this ability to dictate your own worth regardless of other people’s perception of you. Once you’ve finally come to accept yourself, you’ll realise that you trust your partner more because you’re confident enough that you’re worthy of his/her love and you’ll never feel like you’re not good enough for that person thus there is no room for doubts and accusations.

      2. Empower Yourself

      When you fall in love, you sometimes find yourself inside this tunnel, this tunnel-vision where the only thing you see is him/her. When inside this tunnel, you sort of loose yourself, your mind is fixated on this person (over-thinking everything, dreaming or planning things that most probably won’t happen) causing you to detract from your previous goals and visions. A stable relationship is when the two individuals entering the relationship are clear of his and her goals, passion and hobbies, things that basically make a person. Have that personal life which works as an avenue for self-growth. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you’ve completely entangled your lives together. NO. Have your own set of friends, your own hobbies, basically live your life. You see, the stronger you are as a person, the stronger the relationship will be.

    This is as far as I go with this topic. Have a nice day everybody!

A picture of my two favourite people in the whole world.