Emotional Intelligence

The most recent lesson life wants me to learn and acquire is emotional maturity. Many have heard of the word 'Emotional Quotient' (EQ) however often we realize that although we may have understood the concept, when in direct contact with real life situations, we experience this kind of disconnect where we are unable to apply what we have learnt. A state beyond this is emotional maturity.

I experienced something recently that is unlike what I've experienced before. Initially, I felt angry at myself for feeling what I feel in reaction to the experience. I questioned why I was feeling exactly how people will in the dramas I watch? Why wasn't I more mature?

After going through a roller-coaster of emotions and countless times of pouring my heart out to people who I am the closest with, I finally realized that the emotions I felt in reaction to my experience (heartbroken, sad, angry, jealous, etc) was normal and I was rightful in feeling them and the emotions were simply 'emotional reflexes' (if such a word exists).

Am I only putting this picture here because I mentioned the word 'Roller-coaster' in the paragraph above? Totally.

Thus, maturity is not the ability to bypass and not feel these 'emotional reflexes' but the understanding that these feelings should not dictate your reactions. You should not respond based on how you 'feel' in that moment. Like how being strong doesn't mean you don't bleed when you fall but the ability to handle the pain and accept that to bleed is normal. Know that although those emotions are yours, they are not you. Allow yourself to feel what you feel, it's okay to feel hurt or cry even for that's how the heart bleeds, but give yourself time to respond and understand the situation. I always find it useful to postpone how I react to a situation that triggers me, and my response is always opposite of how I would have responded had I did in the heat of the moment.

Okay! This is all I want to share with you readers in this post. Do look forward to my upcoming post after I graduate from A-levels! :)

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